Elkevate Your Life
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Elkevate Your Life
You Deserve Someone Who Meets Your Standards
What if finding your perfect match was less about luck and more about strategy? That's the question at the heart of our multi-generational conversation about modern dating featuring my daughter Brooklyn (Gen Z) and returning guest Sarah (Millennial).
The dating landscape has transformed dramatically, with technology creating both new opportunities and challenges. We dive into women-focused safety resources like the Tea app—essentially a "Yelp for men" where women anonymously review potential dates and flag concerning behavior. While controversial, these tools address legitimate safety concerns in a world where meeting strangers has become normalized.
Our conversation takes an unexpected turn when we explore the concept of having a relationship "guide" rather than a "checklist." Brooklyn offers a perspective that resonates deeply: choosing a partner is essentially selecting "the COO of your life," making it perhaps the most consequential decision you'll ever make. This reframes dating from a purely emotional experience to a thoughtful process honoring your future happiness.
The financial aspect of relationships sparks particularly nuanced discussion. While acknowledging evolving gender roles, we explore how women across generations balance career ambitions with partnership expectations. Brooklyn wisely notes that while you can't expect a young partner to have everything figured out financially, what matters is finding someone who demonstrates drive and actions aligned with building a better future together.
Perhaps the most powerful moment comes when Brooklyn suggests everyone should "write down everything you do to show up for people you love so you can realize what it feels like to be loved by you." This brilliant exercise clarifies not just what you want from a partner, but what you deserve based on your own capacity for love.
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Oh, chicka-wa-wa, what's up? Party people, thank you for tuning in to another episode of Elkivate your Life. I am your hostess with the mostess L is in the letter L and key is in the key to your heart. Welcome to this Mindful Monday, august 18th. I have to tell you all I'm so excited to introduce not only my follow-up special guest, sarah. Sarah. Say hello to everyone.
Speaker 2:Hello, excited to be back.
Speaker 1:And I have a new special guest. Welcome my daughter, brooklyn. Everybody Bow, chicka, wow, wow, thanks for having me on.
Speaker 1:Mama Elkie, thank you for joining us. Finally it only took a year, ladies and gentlemen Finally got two celebrities in the house. It's worth the wait. It'll be worth the wait, hopefully. Yes, definitely. So we are going to revisit our dating in 2025, especially because, sarah being a millennial and my daughter being Gen Z, I thought we could talk about some burning questions that all of my listeners have been sending in, aka Andrew, roger, dory Travis, just to name a few. But all the men are asking like why is it so hard to find a good woman? Like why can't it be simple and why does there have to be a list of expectations? So I, you, ladies, feel free to chime in on any of those questions.
Speaker 2:I would say I'm pretty slow to start dating. I kind of get like nervous. I did decide recently actually, that I'm too nervous to do the dating apps. So there's like this app that I downloaded. It's called Meet Up and it's just like a general social app, like they will put on like trivia at different bars or different places in the Bay Area and they'll just put it out there for groups of people to go meet. And I feel like that's just like a better way for me to date, because I was like really like contemplating like I need to put myself out there, but I just, being a woman that does live alone and by myself, I just am not feeling that safe going out and dating like random people I don't know from an app. I'd rather just do it in a group setting and then decipher it from there.
Speaker 1:So I have to tell you, meetup is the one that I was trying to remember because we touched on this last time we were going down the list of all the dating apps and I'm like there's another one Sarah mentioned and I could not remember to save my life. So Meetup.
Speaker 2:It's a good like friend. Indie app.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I love it, brooklyn.
Speaker 3:So, although I have been off the market for three, years now in a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend, jay.
Speaker 3:I will say, to touch on the apps and safety, as a woman, have you ever heard of the app called T T-E -A? Uh-uh, no. So this is an app created for solely women. You have to take a photo of your face and your ID to even be accepted, so men are not allowed Double identification. I like that. Yes, we love this. We love a girls-only space, yes, and basically you can either post a man or browse through men by location and it will show you T on that man. So there's a bunch of other women in your area.
Speaker 3:Yes, there's a green flag that you can press or a red flag that you can press. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:I am loving this.
Speaker 3:I want to look at that.
Speaker 2:right now I have a feeling your male listeners are going to be enraged right now.
Speaker 3:This is basically a Yelp review for men in your area. So you can put a green flag on a man you know. You can put a red flag on a man you know. It's all anonymous.
Speaker 2:Which I also want to say. This is okay, because just about every guy in college that was ever in a fraternity or anything like that had created this in a handbook of women throughout college, and so now it's just a virtual yes, it is our virtual burn book.
Speaker 3:Okay, we deserve this. All the women that have been manipulated for S-E-X or favors. How did you find out about this recently? I found out about this through social media and let me tell you it's very successful. I have seen men in this area. I've been done my stock in it. Yeah, I wish I could. Honestly, if the stock is not public, I would invest because I have seen actual men in our area that we know, that we all know very well, posted on this app and there are reviews and when I tell you reviews it is revealing.
Speaker 1:Oh, wow, okay, We'll be looking this up, maybe we'll have some feedback.
Speaker 3:It does bring the tea and I think, on a more serious note, it's providing a safe space for women to really share their experiences on men that are just out there, maybe for a hookup or, even worse, maybe a man that is not safe, that has abused women verbally or physically and so I've seen those as well where some men have 100 plus red flags and women are sharing experiences from all across the Bay Area that they've came across this man and they have this experience.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Well, I think that's like amazing for women.
Speaker 1:Right, we need all of the tools in our toolbox, but feel comfortable to put yourself out there.
Speaker 2:But also, maybe don't be on the app to tear people up completely if it's like you're at 100%.
Speaker 2:But I do love the safety purpose of it because it's like when you're thinking about going on a date, you're like, okay, maybe they'll pick me up, that's a gentleman thing to do. But then I'm like, wait, I don't want them to know where I live so that I'm going to meet them. You know what I mean. There's all those little aspects, so it's nice that. I mean it's kind of sad some of these dating apps can't combine together like that. Like have those right, you know. Like just comments of someone like I went on a date with this person and they like skipped out on the bill. Like you know what I mean. Feedback like that.
Speaker 1:I literally used to say prior to getting married, like, okay, ladies, we need to have you, need to show up with your list of questions, which Tommy and I talked about. If you've listened to the previous episodes about how this guy that he met, that is happily married, that he created a list and it was literally like not an interview list, but it was like stay or go boundary, go boundary.
Speaker 1:You know it's hard to weed out the, the bad, and I was like we need to be showing up, going sorry, not sorry, but like okay, what's your credit score or how is your credit and have you been to jail before?
Speaker 2:like serious questions that because then it's great, you don't want to find, but like you need to know.
Speaker 3:I mean speaking from almost personal experience. I have some friends that have been on dates that, after they found out their last name, have discovered that this person has a criminal background. So I think it would be so good.
Speaker 2:I mean, it's not like you want to bring that up on the first date, but you're seeing someone just say, like you know, I just want you to know like who I am today, but who I was in the past Like it does still follow me as type of thing, like right, like you know what I mean. And if you're not honest, then like that means you're continuing that negative.
Speaker 1:I like to look at it as here's my resume for our relationship.
Speaker 2:I believe you have it printed in pink with the perfume on it too.
Speaker 1:I just feel like today, now, because there are so many crazy things happening in the world that you have to have a guide, you have to have a list. To have a guide, you have to have a list. And I have to tell you, after having Tommy on and us talking about his friend, he said he created this list specifically for him and there were women that were like, oh, I'm not answering that. And he was like, okay, bye, I guess you're not the one, not in those words exactly, but just if you're not willing to answer these questions when knowing that I'm looking for my future wife?
Speaker 2:Girl bye. Well, and everyone tells you to make a list like when you're like get out of a relationship or you're trying to put yourself out there, even just like if you're not in a relationship a list in life of what you want. So it's like written down, you think about it, you know what you want, but I mean, I feel like you should definitely just if you're looking for like marriage right away, you have to just lay that out.
Speaker 2:You know, what I mean. Like when you go on your first date like I want to get married, I want to have kids, like I'm not, like you, just have fun. Yes, lay down the law.
Speaker 3:Yeah, yeah, I mean the same where people are hesitant to state their intentions early on because they're afraid it's going to scare people off. I say scare them off. You want to scare off the people that are not intentional, right?
Speaker 1:Exactly that's what I'm saying You're reading out the bad and you're making room for the good.
Speaker 3:I would rather just have one coffee date and realize, okay, you're not looking for the same thing as me. Then get five, six dates in two months invested, and then realize they're not looking for the same thing as me. Then get five, six dates in two months, you know, invested and then realize they're not serious, they don't even want actually to be married.
Speaker 1:Right or I don't want kids, or I don't want to work or whatever.
Speaker 2:Yeah, right, and I like I mean just because, like obviously there aren't men sitting here right now, but I do want to say so, like I see this statistic all the time on Instagram, especially like the news feed, but like women from like I think it's like 28 to 40, like it's the highest percentage of like single with no children, yep, and it's like is kind of shocking because, like it's saying also that people in their like late 30s to early 40s are having kids more because women are waiting around. It's not like we're just being like super particular and stuff, but it's like we have a standard for our personal lives that we live, and we expect the man to live up to that as well, and sometimes men do mature really late, so a lot of women are finding themselves getting married at 35, having having their first kids, and it's like also, it's like we're still waiting for men, like we're still waiting for you guys to get there, but we're also not making like crazy decisions at a young age nowadays.
Speaker 2:We're just like focusing on our careers until that love meets our standards.
Speaker 1:It's so true, I have to tell you. So. We watch reality shows. Sometimes, on occasion, we are guilty of that and literally on one of the reality shows I watch, my girl busted out her list at the bar because she was like um awkward silence, Like she was out with this guy that she was physically attracted to.
Speaker 1:Um, is it not Love Island? I can't even remember what it's called, but it was like one of those things where they went on another dating show and it didn't work out. So now they're on this one and there was such an awkward silence that she pulled out the list and was like so anyway. And he was like why do you have a list? And I'm like good on her, Like he was trying to shame her, kind of like why do you have a list? And she was like we're not talking and we're not connecting. So let's cut to the chase and see if we're even compatible, Because why do you want to keep wasting your time with somebody that's like I never want to get married, I never want to get kids, have kids I don't want, I will only live here.
Speaker 2:Like there's so many things you have to consider, we're gonna act like guys don't have like a mental list yeah, I was going to mention that too.
Speaker 3:also, you know, bless the woman that you you're mentioning with your friend that weren't able to answer those questions. I think it's good to take into account that on the first date maybe you're a bit nervous, and I've been there as well. I think all of us can, you know, agree that sometimes the first day is you don't show up your best, so answering or asking still, if you're, if you are the person that is going to be inquisitive, asking intro questions I know I read a book by Jay Shetty and he gave questions about love that can, that are entry level, that you can ask on the first day, that also reveal, like underlying morals and values that this person may have, without asking, hey, yeah, what trauma have you been through? Cause that can be a very deep question on the first date.
Speaker 1:Yes, okay, and love Jay Shetty. Thanks for bringing him up the list. Just so we're clear. It's not a first date list. It's like okay, we're dating, I like you, I think you like me.
Speaker 2:Cause I'm picturing her sitting at the first drink.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, no, no, no. Sorry, I should have clarified that. It was like he met, you know he he had gone on dates with these people and he's like okay, I feel like we like each other. Let's see. And it was after the several dates that the question.
Speaker 2:Yeah, let's be like realistic Cause, if the list goes well with somebody, that's where you're like I'm going to be with this person, like I'm going to work, like we have the same thing. And like whether or not somebody brings out a physical list or a mental list, like that's where people end up getting married and realizing that their relationship is far more like compatible than what they thought before or it's not. So it's not like this list is like the bible being brought out, like what have you done? But it's more of like you know you get serious because you, your feelings are involved and you don't want to get hurt.
Speaker 2:So then, you're like I'm at my three month break right now are we. Yes.
Speaker 1:And I will say the gentleman that created this list and Tommy that wants to use it, he goes. I was looking for my wife and he goes. The way I found her was after going on a million dates and you know, thinking okay, you know like top three. Let's just say, for the sake of argument, so, top three, he's like so and what he does is he gives them the list so that they can ask him as well. Right, so it's not just like okay, no, you got an F on that one.
Speaker 1:I wouldn't know if it's a two way conversation Absolutely, and so some of the girls were like, oh no, I'm not answering that. And he's like thank you.
Speaker 2:Next Okay, I realize. What I'm picturing right now, though, is Love on the Spectrum, with that season two. Oh my gosh, and it's like the speed dating. He's like, I don't like it, and the girls are sitting there in silence.
Speaker 3:The honest.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no, honest, yeah, no, the honest truth. But it's like you know you want somebody that has so much of your interests and lives and that is like I think the most vulnerable part of dating is probably bringing up that list, or you know what I mean, just checking with people if we're compatible beyond these levels, because I like hanging out with you and me, like your charisma, our conversations, but, like you know, like what, if you're religious, where does that navigate your relationship? If you don't have kids, if you want to get married, like finances.
Speaker 1:you know all of that Because that's like becoming more vulnerable, yeah.
Speaker 3:I also don't want to discourage any male listeners thinking that we are just on a podium, you know, reviewing or interviewing all these people. I think that all of us also hold the grace in our hearts to know that we are not perfect humans as well, and there may be things on your list that I don't cross off, and I think there is room for compromise and grace overall, but I think aligning values and morals and goals in life is just huge 100%.
Speaker 1:Well, you and I have read some books about the questions. Yes, I don't want the men, I don't want you to think this is a men-bashing session. You guys have a list too. But even when I was dating after being in a relationship unsuccessful relationships. After being in a relationship, unsuccessful relationships I just started writing things down like, okay, this person isn't open to reading the love language book.
Speaker 2:Okay.
Speaker 1:That might be kind of a yellow flag, because I want somebody to open-minded. Yeah, open track Somebody to be open-minded, at least to want to know what your love languages are Like. What if we're total opposite? How is that going to work? Um, yeah, so I started writing down just specific things for me, like, um, but you brought up a lot of good points, sarah, about religion. Well, even what did I said about moving, like, what if you want to relocate? What if you are a traveler and you're with somebody that doesn't want to travel?
Speaker 3:That's the thing that I've been actually dealing with in my relationship now is that sometimes your emotional needs are met with this person, but maybe logically, like there is a logical side to life, like location and even financial goals or all of those, yeah.
Speaker 2:And things that, like, people will not like settle on or break on, right, you know what I mean, where it's like. You know, I know of a couple, like recently that broke up because there was a large age difference but, like the girl decided she really did want kids, like after she had been with an older man and you know, when I and they had a very like clean, mutual breakup because he was like I'm not doing that, like I'm not swaying that way, and they had been together, they had a great relationship, but when she realized that he was okay with that you know what I mean and it's different things like that that made me a new date for a little bit. And then you realize, like those are some of these things that I thought I didn't want. I do now want, right, you know, and it goes like. So it's like and like that's why it's like a little bit.
Speaker 2:Sometimes the list, like I would say, like you know, top three or four of the list is like do you want to get married? Do you want to have kids? Right, like what are your like religious political beliefs? Because obviously it needs to align on that, and and then like that, like major matters, but like if you know you grow together and realize you don't want the same things, it's also okay to be like you know what? I actually don't want kids anymore. Like you know what I mean? Or something like that they're a beach. Because like yeah, the list can't be too long.
Speaker 1:I mean, sometimes people like to disagree and that works for people's relationships too yeah, well, I was in a relationship for six years and we hung in there. The whole time I kept hearing I want to have kids and I was like, sorry, that's overclosed. Uh, you can have access to my kids. And it was like no, no, no, I want to have a baby and I'm like you know what. Let's rename it. Let's not call it a list, let's call it a guide.
Speaker 3:It is a guide, you know what, and I think that is beautiful, because in society there are like ever since you know, I grew up you as my sole caretaker, with a single mom, and I think a lot of women are not taught to think of what we want, but just how we can fit in the world, how we can be successful in the world, how we can find a man that's going to get us the result that we want, or so I think it's actually really beautiful that we can sit here and think of what our wants are, and I think that's why it is such a larger conversation, because we have learned from such a small age to be small and just be lovable and be motherly and nurturing and and supportive, and not what are.
Speaker 3:What do we want from out of this? And I think that that is really beautiful and calling it a guide is a. Better yeah, it's more accurate.
Speaker 2:It takes away a little bit, I think even to like the male listeners.
Speaker 2:It takes away the negative connotation Because they have a guide too. You know what I mean. Like a guide always knows, like what they're attracted to, right, and a guide always knows like, even if they don't feel as confident in the world, they would like a woman to maybe help bring that out of them or, like you know, be their partner and making them feel confident and stuff like that. Because I was obviously men are putting themselves out there to dating and, like I do want to bring up um cause like I, my friends and I joke about it a lot, but I mean women. Women definitely look at men for money these days, and it's not just being provided for. But I feel like the millennial generation, with starting a lot of sugar baby stuff in my generation, onlyfans developed in my generation, all of that.
Speaker 2:I definitely think that women don't take men as serious mentally or emotionally. They really just kind of do look at oh, it's a page for me, transactionally, yeah, transactionally, perfect word, yeah. So I feel like there's kind of always like I don't know just negative views around, like you know, dating a man that's emotionally available or like maybe vulnerable, or putting themselves out there Cause I'm like I'm 30, I'm single and I'm like I'm just waiting for a rich man, but really I'm just waiting for the rest of my life. I joke that I'm waiting for a rich man. It'd be a benefit. But then I think to myself I am a rich man, you know what I mean. But that also sometimes is like a bad mentality, because then you're like I am the man.
Speaker 1:If you view like, yeah, it's good that you're thinking about that and and.
Speaker 2:I mean I'd love to be taken care of we all would but I'd love emotional over financial because, like I, could never be fake to somebody emotionally yeah, if they were like this for me and I also think it would make me so uncomfortable, like if that was that because, like I don't know, I feel like like when I'm in marriage or relationships it's a partnership on every single aspect. It is.
Speaker 1:And that is how I was raised, like 50-50. And there are going to be times in your relationship where, okay, you might have to pick up the slack and they're making more 60 foot whatever. But I don't think there's anything wrong with saying I want a man that is financially secure, because I'm going to go back to my generation, which is what does it say?
Speaker 1:in the Bible. Sorry, I'm going to be getting on my Christian high horse for a moment. But protect, provide and procreate. Well, I ain't procreating anymore, so I hope you can protect me and provide for me. It doesn't mean we can't do it for ourselves.
Speaker 2:But oh no, the want needs to be there, like if they don't have the job, like that's out the door, right, like right. I mean it would be beneficial, but I do feel like a lot of women are shallow-ish now if men don't, and then like that's why it's like I'd see we we have seen like a increase in age gap dating because women are looking for that. But it's also that, like older men don't care to spoil like a younger woman, like they don't care about the looks they don't care about, like they've experienced so much of life already and been married, and like unhappy that they're. Like who cares if this like older 20-year-old-year-old or young 30-year-old is making my life a little easier? Like what is it? Bill Acheck from the football? Right? Yeah, the football team? Right, I'm dating that girl. But, honestly, who cares, right?
Speaker 1:Well, I want to ask your opinion, brooklyn, because you are Gen Z and I know for you, the way I raised you and the way I tell you is like, okay, we go somewhere, you don't let. You don't automatically take out your wallet and say I can pay, even though you can, what? What is? What does your generation think Like? How do they respond to those kinds of scenarios?
Speaker 3:You know I can't speak for the masses, but I can speak for myself and think, and my point of view is that you should be strategic with who you choose to do life with. I think that it's the biggest decision that you can make in life, more than your career or what car you pick or where you live. I think that this is going to be basically the COO of your life, right, the person that you spend the most time with, the person that you live with on a day-to-day, that's going to affect you the most. So I think being strategic with choosing that person is so important. I think that overall finances, it can be a very nuanced conversation because even my boyfriend he's an entrepreneur but he is also in the building phase and I think for a lot of women maybe they can experience it if they want to date younger. You can't expect a man that is 24 to have their whole entire life together, but I think having a man that is driven, hardworking, motivated, to achieve more and also shows that they act on that.
Speaker 3:They're not just talking about what they want to do all day.
Speaker 3:They're showing you every day with their actions that they are working towards a better life for you and your family and your future.
Speaker 3:I think that's 100% what all women need to be looking for, because you don't want to be I, you know now living in an environment where I see a baby growing up from infant years how much time and effort that takes, and from you as well. The the time is something that you can never get back Right. And so having to work as, uh, as a woman that has a child or is trying to provide for a family Now we're being asked to do both Now birth my child, now cook the food and go to work and provide 50-50 for the rent I say I don't think that that's fair or how we can live an optimal life together, coexisting, and I think that there is times where you lean into the male strengths. I think that they go through less hormonally, they can work longer hours. So overall, I think being strategic with your dating is a smart thing to do and I don't think that women should be ashamed of that. Yeah.
Speaker 2:I feel like that's the key probably theme here is being strategic with your dating on both ends Right.
Speaker 3:And not to say that there's men out there that just want to have intimate relations and there is also women out there that want the same thing. So being honest, like we were saying, be honest about your expectations early on is so key because you can find someone out there. There's billions of people on this planet.
Speaker 2:There is someone out there that will meet that expectations perfectly and also, like I think, a big thing to it is, like you know, feel like you're deserving of everything that you want to, like you know what I mean. Because, like that gives you the confidence to get there, to even drop that list and think about what you want, like, feel confident enough as man or woman to know that you deserve that, because, if you desire it, you truly want it in your heart and don't settle, like, for anything less. Because, like I mean, a lot of the reasons like my relationships haven't worked out is because I'm like I know I'm deserving it more. But have I ever laid it like, laid down the law of showing that Right?
Speaker 1:No Right so deserving it more. But have I ever laid it like, laid down the law of showing that right?
Speaker 2:no right so then I continue to get like this circus coming my way, um, but it's also that's why I've been like single for so long, because I'm like I've had trouble laying down that law because I even though I know I deserve better I've had a hard time having the confidence to speak it in my mind and like I guess that's somewhat a believing it sometimes Like it's not, like I believe I deserve to be bad, but then, like you put yourself in situations but it's making sure that you feel confident enough to like stand up.
Speaker 3:I challenge every man and woman out here to write a list I did this of everything you do, how you show up for people you love that could be family, mother, friend, dog all the things that you do on a day-by-day basis to show up for the people you love.
Speaker 1:Write all those things down so you can really realize what it feels like to be loved by you, because that is so valuable that I was, oh my gosh get out of my head, because I was literally thinking that, as she was saying all those things, I was oh my gosh get out of my head Because I was literally thinking that, as she was saying all those things, I was saying that's where it's helpful to have a guide and literally before Mr and I agreed to date, I say I put my cards on the table. I didn't literally, but it was literally a sitting across and I was like so seems like you want to pursue me. Let me tell you who I am and what I hope to gain from a relationship.
Speaker 1:You know I didn't say it like that, but it was kind of like I don't want to say what I'm looking for because I wasn't looking for it, but I was just like let me tell you who I am and what I bring to the table. And I was literally like I cook, I clean, I'm loyal, I am, you know, I have maternal and.
Speaker 1:I'm nurturing. And then it was his turn to say, okay, what I heard was blah, blah, blah, the whole sport of the day. But anyway, he mirror matched it and then said okay, so you want somebody to protect, provide and if you can pay for your own nails, but if I get your nails done, that would be a bonus. And I was like, yeah, like we literally went to the specifics, we went above and beyond. Thank you, unique. Because Unique was like, oh, I told them, you're going to be, I want somebody who's going to give me my coffee, get my nail. I was like, oh, girl, and she was like, no shame, like he wants to be my husband, I'm going to give him the guide.
Speaker 3:And we all have our things like that.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 3:There's men where maybe my partner likes a little massage, or he likes a meal made a certain way, or so. I think we all have our things. We don't need to be ashamed of our wants and desires. Yeah right?
Speaker 2:no, not at all. I don't ever think I mean we're all like quirky and have our little things, but you have to have those standards. I think that was a good ending of sharing you and mister, because yeah, you know yeah I when he forgets I remind him of that day.
Speaker 1:Do you remember when I broke out my list and we had a guide?
Speaker 3:um, I do have a book, uh, to recommend to everyone. It's a book that I read with my partner, that is, it asks a hundred questions prior to marriage and I think it's all the things that we don't think about on the day-to-day when we're dating, that maybe don't come across Like. If you don't experience loss with your partner, you don't know how they navigate that.
Speaker 3:You maybe don't have tougher financial conversations. So I think it is very valuable. It's called 101 Questions to Ask Before you Get Engaged by H Norman Wright. I recommend to everyone that is seriously dating to you know, have a little date night with your partner and go through those.
Speaker 1:Thank you for that Because I remember you sharing that and I wanted to. I wanted you to bring up that book. I was going to ask you to mention it because, yeah, my girl had me read that in the car. I was like, did you ask those questions? I'm like maybe the top five ten, not this whole book, but it was very insightful and it made me think about things that I wish I would have thought of and we would have talked about. I don't want to dive too much deeper because I want to make sure I give a shout-out to Dr Ryan Swen, my amazing chiropractor. I told you guys about him before Pinnacle Wellness Center. He's located in Pleasanton, and I've talked to you guys about the HBOT, which is basically you go into a oxygen chamber and it heals you everything from injuries to inflammation to well. I'm using it for my autoimmune.
Speaker 3:But I have a family friend that also purchased one of these chambers to go into her house because her family member was experiencing he was diagnosed with cancer, and so it can be beneficial for many different diagnosis, even prior to I mean it can also be preventative care, exactly so yeah, it helps with anti-aging.
Speaker 1:The more that I dive into it I'm like where was this thing? Yeah, so, yeah. So shout out to Dr Ryan Swen, pinnacle Wellness Center, 5994 West Las Pesitas Boulevard, suite 207. He's on all the platforms. Everybody you can find him and look up his approach and I love that it's a more advanced and not just a holistic approach, but it's kind of an alternative approach that he talks about nutrition and isn't just adjusting your bones but gets into more depth about healing nerves or how the muscles communicate with one another. The stuff that he was doing with me visit one. I literally left there like, oh my God, what did this guy do? He just waved a magic wand over me. It was amazing. So I want to give a shout out to him and, of course, my other loyal subscribers.
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Speaker 3:We're going to talk about it.
Speaker 1:I'm in the same situation. It's actually a positive. I said clearly there's something there, because you guys keep going back to each other and he's like, yeah, we needed to learn how to have better communication.
Speaker 2:And sometimes you guys just need to come on the podcast and vent it.
Speaker 1:Hey, there's that too, and, andrew, I hope we answered your questions. Shout out to Mike Coffman, thanks for being a loyal listener and subscriber, and Roger, can't wait to hear about this green thumb and what you're growing in your garden these days. And I think that covers it. Thank you, ladies, for being here.
Speaker 2:Thank you so much. Third time's a charm. I told you it's my third time on, so she's our charm.
Speaker 3:I love it. I feel like we could talk for hours and, honestly, this topic has been it's been a great discussion today.
Speaker 1:And if we?
Speaker 3:ever want to revisit, you'll have to drop your comments below, drop your suggestions below and yes, maybe there's a part too to this, so.
Speaker 1:I love that idea.
Speaker 3:Yeah, cause we usually get questions we usually get questions.
Speaker 1:People text in what about this, what about that, what about the man? So I'm sure we'll have to do a follow-up.
Speaker 2:Thank, you for having us Algie.
Speaker 1:Yeah, thank you for being on here, sarah. I so appreciate hearing the different opinions and ideas and all of us talking.
Speaker 3:Of the generations Meeting for the generations yes, here at HeartForce.
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