The Lonely Path: Navigating Relationship Troubles When Support Systems Fail

Have you ever found yourself wondering when "enough is enough" in a relationship? That moment when you've tried everything, but still feel stuck at an impossible crossroads?

Life rarely sends challenges one at a time. Instead, they often arrive as overwhelming waves that test every boundary we've established. In this raw, unfiltered episode, I open up about navigating my two-year marriage through ongoing difficulties despite therapy and communication. Just as these relationship questions reached a critical point, my beloved 12-year-old dog received a diagnosis for an incurable disease—one that mirrors my own autoimmune condition—adding both emotional and financial strain to an already fragile situation.

The ground beneath my feet seemed to disappear completely when a close friendship suddenly went on "pause" without warning, followed by the painful discovery that family members I'd counted on for support instead chose judgment and distance. "This is too much," they said. "You're playing victim," they warned—precisely when compassion was most needed.

Through tears and vulnerability, I share the coping mechanisms I'm actively pursuing: regular therapy, consistent exercise to manage stress and autoimmune symptoms, and dedicated self-reflection to understand my role in these situations. But when traditional support systems fail, where do we turn? Do we retreat inward like "a crab in its shell"? Seek spiritual solutions? Or is there another path forward when facing multiple personal crises simultaneously?

This isn't just my story—it's a universal question about human resilience when everything falls apart at once. I'm reaching out for your wisdom, your experiences, your hard-won insights. Share your thoughts through any platform where you listen, or text in your advice. As my birthday approaches, I'm holding onto hope that new beginnings are possible, even from the darkest places. Your support not only helps the podcast grow but might just provide the lifeline needed during this challenging chapter.

Chapters

• 0:00 Intro and Listener Shoutouts
• 3:10 Supporting Small Creators and Businesses
• 5:30 When Enough is Enough
• 9:39 Facing Multiple Personal Crises
• 13:42 Seeking Solutions in Dark Times
• 17:22 Call for Support and Sign-off

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Bow, chicka, wow, wow, what's up? Party people, thank you for tuning in to another episode of Elguvate your Life. I am your hostess, with the mostess L as in the letter L and key as in the key to your heart. Well, I have to tell you, first of all, thank you to all my loyal listeners. Want to make sure I give a special shout out to Creative Kara, who is the multi-talented soul that I am so blessed to have in my life. This woman can cook clean, is snow white to her animals that surround her and has a lovely Etsy page known as lovemyartistetsycom, where you can find various different song options if you are interested in proposing to your significant other and want to take your relationship to the next level, or maybe you want to propose a unique idea of asking your best friend to be your maid of honor. Anyway, those are her newest clothing real leather boots and laptop carriers, backpacks, you name it. She has something for everyone, so check out her site. Her links are always in my pod. Shout out to Roger. Roger Haven, thank you for being a loyal listener. I so appreciate you. And well, I don't need to ask how your garden grows, because I've been seeing the results on social media Quite impressive. As I told you, in my last pod I couldn't even keep an aloe vera plant alive. That's how sad and poor my gardening skills are, unfortunately. Yeah, not proud of that one. I guess plants are just not my forte, but clearly they are for you, roger. Looking forward to seeing you at the upcoming birthday event. Hopefully I can make some introductions to some new fun single ladies, to some new fun single ladies Next up on the roster, mike Kaufman.

Speaker 1: 3:08

Thank you for subscribing, thank you for listening, thank you for commenting. And Kyle Kyle Few Love is a commitment. Commitment to love. Love is a commitment. Commitment to love. Love is a verb. You can find his Audible on Amazon and I tell you guys pretty much every episode that it's worth the purchase via audible on amazon. I think I'm going to read some more of it this evening because I definitely I need that wisdom because this week has been a rough one.

Speaker 1: 4:00

And uh oh, shout out to jeffra. Jeff Parra, namaste, I see you are living the sprinter life, enjoying concerts and outdoors and living his best life. Thank you for your love and support and positivity. Jeff Really appreciate it. Did I count everyone? I think I did. Shout out to Tom Guzik, also of minerspickstudiosetsycom. His artwork is a more rustic approach. Artwork is a more rustic approach and, as I said, their links can be found in my, in my podcast. And then thank you to Angie Germer. Angie Germer is a lovely nurse at Kaiser Pfizer and she also is promoting her all natural Thrive by Lavelle. These are all natural supplements that fill the nutritional gaps in your body's needs, and they helped me lose 10 pounds. So, hey, maybe it'll work for you. Check her out, okay.

Speaker 1: 5:30

So tonight's topic while I didn't have a specific one in mind, the one that comes to mind that I am currently dealing with is how to know when enough is enough in your relationships, friendships, friendships it could be family, it could be friends, it could be your spouse. I'm just wondering when do you say enough is enough? Question to all of you is it's no secret that my husband and I have gone through trials and tribulations throughout our two-year marriage and um trying to think about how I want to put this delicately and eloquently so. Well, let's just say we all know when we meet someone that we find to be our love, our true love. We all know there's going to be pros and cons, right, but you have the tough conversations and you talk about your needs and their needs and how you can come together and compromise not sacrifice on what you want out of the relationship and if you're on the same page with your views on things. You're on the same page with your views on things and we definitely did that. There just have been other things that have come up that we talk about in therapy. For how do you stay together when the differences don't align or don't improve in the time frame or the way that you would like them to? How do you handle that? Let me start with all my long-term married forever couples. What is your advice on this?

Speaker 1: 8:36

And then, at the same time that this is happening, you find out your dog has an incurable disease, kind of like yours. It worsens with stress. It can be managed with medication, but it's not treatable. It can be managed with medication, but it's not treatable, it's just managed a lot like mine. And then add in your dearest friend that you've been working on a friendship for the last year suddenly wants to take a break from the friendship and it's nothing personal. And you were just talking about how you were best friends a week ago and making plans for your upcoming birthday, and then that person needs space and time and says it's not personal, they just need space and time to deal with what they're dealing with. And then your family and friends that you think you can lean on and you think will be there to support you and encourage you, share with you. I'm sorry, this is a lot. I can't deal with this. Please don't make yourself out to be the victim and, by the way, this is going to affect your relationships outside of your marriage. So just be mindful that when I hear of your troubles, I want to crawl under a rock and distance myself from you and not talk to you.

Speaker 1: 11:01

What does everybody do with that information? I'm curious. I would really like to know in these times of trouble, because I'm in therapy, I talk to my therapist, I work with her twice a month. Therapist, I work with her twice a month and I'm working out every other day to help myself manage my stress and my incurable autoimmune disease. I take in some vitamin d, usually one or two hours every day or every other day, combined with the working out fitness gym, and the people you want to be able to lean on family and or friends are not there during this time of need.

Speaker 1: 12:02

What do you do? And truly, this is an honest question, because I have been able to evolve and grow and look inward and take responsibility for my actions and my part in any of these scenarios that I just mentioned. What do you do? Do you pray about it? Do you meditate about it? Do you meditate about it? Do you call somebody and vent to them Because, as women, that's what we do? Or do you say, oh well, all of these things are happening for a reason? I just need to keep to myself and, as I like to use the expression, become a crab in my shell and digest it all, process it all, analyze it, dissect it. What do you do then? So, as I like to say, riddle this Batman.

Speaker 1: 13:42

What do you do when you're in what feels one of the darkest places in your life? Your 12 and a half year old dog is dying and it's going to cost a lot of money to keep her with you longer, and she's my one loyal, unconditional, faithful co-host and companion and suddenly you feel alone. I know that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results, which is why I am taking the appropriate steps to manage my stress and protect my peace. Just wondering how do you navigate that? I would really like to know, because that's where I'm at Trying to figure out how to navigate all this and dissect it and process it and go okay. I see my part there and I recognize that and validate their feelings and acknowledge okay, move on and then okay, this one, oh, this is life and this happens. So that's my pod for this evening.

Speaker 1: 15:43

I wish it could be more light-hearted and happy go lucky. And that I had guests that I was talking with and sharing ideas with and talking about my show and with and talking about my show and talking about more positive, uplifting things. But the fact is is that this is heavy on my heart and my mind and I'm trying to crawl my way out. My birthday is next Thursday and I do know that birthdays are about new beginnings. I do know that and I believe that and I'm hopeful that those new beginnings will be filled with love, happiness, joy, fruition.

Speaker 1: 16:49

But in this dark and lonely time, I'm wondering do any of you have any antidotes that you can share? Because if you do, I would love to hear them and I would love for you to share them on my YouTube channel, you know, you can find me on YouTube, Amazon, apple, spotify, deezer, podchaser, several other platforms, and it gives you the option to send a text and you can text in your thoughts, your ideas, your questions, your concerns, your anecdotes, so I would love to know what yours is, yours is. Until then, please be sure to like, comment, share. It helps the algorithm and helps me get my voice and my pod out there. And, yeah, this time I'm asking you for your help, so I am going to look forward to your words of wisdom for me on this Wisdom Wellness Wednesday. No-transcript.