Like a Phoenix Rising from the Ashes Wisdom Wellness Wednesday 040925

Facing life-altering diagnoses led me to discover powerful lessons about acceptance, resilience and recognizing when the universe is preparing us for something greater.

• Processing emotions after diagnosis requires acknowledging anger, sadness, frustration, guilt and shame
• We need validation of our feelings before we can truly move forward
• Meditation, affirmations and grounding techniques help center ourselves during turmoil
• The stoic philosophy reveals eight signs that your struggles are about to end
• Unexpected peace replaces emotional turmoil when you're ready for change
• Synchronicities like recurring numbers and meaningful coincidences appear as signposts
• Mourning your old lifestyle is necessary before embracing your new one
• The universe aligns people and conversations at precisely the right moments
• Our struggles don't define us - they strengthen us and prepare us for something greater

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Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome to Elkivate Your Life
• 1:01 From the Ashes Rises the Phoenix
• 5:01 Processing Emotions After Diagnosis
• 10:02 Signs Your Struggles Are Ending
• 19:17 Embracing the New Chapter
• 21:57 Podcast Closing and Acknowledgments

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Bow, chicka, wow, wow, what's up? Party people, thank you for tuning in to Elkivate your Life. I am your hostess, with the mostess L as in the letter L and key as in the key to your heart. Thank you to all my loyal listeners who continue to follow like share. I really appreciate you.

Speaker 1: 0:39

For those of you who have been following and listening lately of you who have been following and listening lately, I've been talking about overcoming challenges and how to advocate for yourself and basically how to overcome adversity. A lot of things happening. So real quick, I just want to pop on here. I did do a recording on From the Ashes Rises the Phoenix, basically was the gist of it, and I was referring to myself on this Wisdom Wellness Wednesday and the reason I was referring to that is because I realized that through all this stuff that I just I want to be able to share some things, because I've just been doing a lot of self reflecting I guess you could say couple days as far as you know just trying to figure out what this all means for me, what you know, the change that I'm going through in my life, because I always believe that there is a lesson here, right, and so in saying that, interestingly enough, good old professor Kyle, dr Kyle, came to the rescue again, dun-da-da-da. Whenever I am having any sort of emotional, physical, mental, anything, he'll send me something that he's reading or has read, or you know, just share his wisdom with me. And I, I really appreciate that.

Speaker 1: 3:09

And so what happened is that I just realized that I had been in such a funk from, in such a funk from, you know, my lifestyle change. That's really what it is. It's a lifestyle change, and a lot of us are resistant to change, right? Nobody wants to change, or do they? There are a lot of us that become comfortable and complacent with our daily routines and regimens. And so, basically, what he brought to my attention is that there's a reason you're going through these struggles, and the reason you're going through these struggles is because there's something bigger and better out there for you.

Speaker 1: 4:11

And usually in these moments he will send me something to sort of elaborate on that I'm like, okay, what do I got to watch now, kyle, what do you got me listening to? And I hope you're laughing, kyle, because you know I'm like okay, what do I got to watch now, kyle, what do you got me listening to? And I hope you're laughing, kyle, because you know I'm totally teasing, well, anyway. So when I was going through this funk of the whole, poor me, my life is ending. I have these three incurableurable diseases and I don't know what to do. Excuse me, not a lot of sleep last night, guys, sorry. And he'll usually send me something to give me new perspective just one of the many reasons why I love him so dear. So he sent me something. Bear with me taking a sip of my hot chocolate slash tea. When all else fails and things are not moving properly, feel free to take my tip of smooth move tea with a splash of sugar-free hot chocolate. Anyway, don't judge me on that one, kyle. Anyway, don't judge me on that one, kyle. Okay, moving on. So he'll send me something. And he sent me this If you notice these eight signs that are your struggles, then your struggles are about to end. And it talks about stoic philosophy. And, kyle, you'll be happy to know that I listened to another one on my own today and I passed them along to a couple of people and they listened to them both and they were like hey, this really resonated with me. The other one was don't force anything in your life 10 stoic lessons for inner peace. Okay. So, going back to the one that Kyle shared, he sent me this if you notice these eight signs, your struggles are about to end. And so I'm'm like, okay, let me listen to it, let me see, there's probably something to this. There usually is, and I have to tell you, everything has been in alignment with me since I got my diagnosis. I do want to let you know.

Speaker 1: 7:02

I definitely went through all of the different phases of emotions. I was mad, I was sad, I was frustrated, I was pissed off, I was, um, I had guilt, I had shame. Because I'm like what if I did this to myself? What if I combined these things and that caused it? You know, you just go through an array of emotions and once I got past that, I went back to my meditation techniques, I went back to my affirmations. I went and stood outside, took my socks and shoes off and stood in the earth and just grounded myself and centered myself and was just breathing and thinking about okay, you went through all these emotions. People have validated for you that it sucks, and so now, what are you going to do about it?

Speaker 1: 8:08

Well, I sort of, in a way, mourned the loss of that person, life lifestyle I used to live and then I moved forward with acceptance of this is the new lifestyle I have to learn to live with and it will look differently. So this is a new chapter for me. So, to make things even more interesting, I had lunch with my friend Lulu yesterday and she tells me about her boyfriend and how. I'm not going to go into any details, but she ends up sharing how he became ill and his life changed and it was a drastic change for him. Um, and basically he, like myself, is going through the rollercoaster of emotions, of learning how to overcome adversity and figure out how to live this new life and accept that that old life and old way of doing things is no longer, at least not right now. Maybe it could be, but for now, acceptance is the key.

Speaker 1: 9:31

Acceptance and then moving forward on. How do I live for the now? Going forward with this new lifestyle, with these changes. What do I need to do? And I do think it's helpful to have a support system. I do think it's helpful to talk to somebody. Hopefully you have family and friends for a support system, but also there are groups available to people because you will find yourself going into a tailspin of emotions and you will become depressed. And it's important that you surround yourself with the right people or get connected with the right people or plugged into the right resources, or get connected with the right people or plugged into the right resources, because there definitely is an array of emotions that nobody prepared me for my doctor certainly didn't, and it doesn't sound like Lulu's friend was prepared for all this, and so he's going through anger, sadness, frustration, a lot of different things, a lot of the things I experienced.

Speaker 1: 10:38

So I realized in that moment I was meant to see her for lunch yesterday. I was meant to see her and talk to her about him and his situation, because in doing so she was going oh yes, but you still got your legs, you can still walk, and at least it's not cancer. And well, let's, and I'm. I was telling her, sure, the key is to look at is the cup half full, half empty, or are we grateful to have a cup? Thank you, brett, for that saying. That has stuck with me and I told her exactly what I wanted for me. I go. We just want somebody to say I know it sucks. It sucks that you used to be able to go and lift weights at the gym and bend down and pick things, these, these things up and play basketball with ease and I'm giving examples and now you can't. That really sucks and I'm sorry. And then, after validating their feelings because we, the feelings that we're going through, are valid, we, we have to listen to them, we have to process them. We have to process them so we can move on to the next phase. And so I told her just acknowledge and validate. I'm really sorry that this happened and that sucks, and I know it's a bummer that you can't do A, b and C. Here's what we can do. For some reason, six Million Dollar man theme song and I know I'm aging myself here always comes to mind. Or even Bionic Woman like he will be stronger, he will be faster. Like he will be stronger, he will be faster, and da-na-na-na. Anyway, to you youngsters out there, you probably don't know what I'm talking about, but there was a show Six Million Dollar man and Bionic Woman where they were in accidents and they had to be rebuilt. Yeah, that'll be another podcast in itself.

Speaker 1: 13:02

The point I'm trying to make is we have to accept what has happened to us and find a way to move on in a healthy way and not hang on to the past and move into the present. And so the past few days is exactly what I've been doing. So I did the meditation, I went outside and stood in the earth and grounded myself and just breathed in the air. And then today I actually went to a buddha retreat on my way to my other happy place, which is the beach, the sound of the waves, the ocean, the Sun on my skin, feeling the soft sand in between your toes, just all of that. And in going to the Buddha retreat I realized all of their practices all revolve around chanting, acceptance, being quiet, being present, listening, focusing, manifesting. And then I went back to the video that I was, that Kyle referred to me and I passed along to my friends, and there were some things that stood out to me that I want to share with you guys. And then I got to tap out because it's getting late and the hubby's going to come in and disrupt the podcast and it's going to be a hot mess.

Speaker 1: 14:33

So, number one, you are going through struggles. It might be pain, fear, uncertainty, and while you're going through this, struggles, of course, you're in a frenzy. You are spiraling, you feel like you're on a roller coaster of emotions and then you get to a point where your energy shifts, your subconscious mind calms you, it actually quiets and you're left with this unexplainable peace. I have gotten to that point and I have to say it's a wonderful feeling. Number two things that used to go wrong have begun to change. All of a sudden, you're hitting all the green lights when you're running late to work, or you get that close parking spot so that you manage to get to work just in the nick of time. And once upon a time all the doors were closing on you, and now you notice doors are opening.

Speaker 1: 15:58

Number three you start losing interest in things that drained you. You were surrounded with people who were takers or who took from you, with people who were takers or who took from you and this could be some example, like somebody that always calls you for advice or calls to ask for money or needs a favor. Or maybe you're the person that always shares your snacks and they're always asking you for snacks. Maybe they don't come and say hi, they're just like do you have any snacks? Hey, I need your advice. But then suddenly your mind and soul align and you make space for better things. Stay focused during these times.

Speaker 1: 16:54

And number four you feel tested. Something comes back to haunt you and you're like wait, I was making such progress. I don't understand. Why is this happening? Well, this is your final challenge, to see if you're ready for the change. So what will you do? Will you give up or will you push through it? You see, the struggles won't define you, they'll only strengthen you.

Speaker 1: 17:31

And number five you keep seeing these random numbers on receipts. Maybe you hear them in songs, your friends mention them to you. The universe is literally aligning to show you 11-11, 222, 777. Hey, elkie, so come over to my party tonight. I'm apartment building number 1111. You're going to park in space 222 and the code to get in the gate is 777. Hmm, and then in your conversations with people, in getting receipts, you're seeing these numbers In songs. You start hearing words like breakthrough change. Listen to that. The universe is telling you something. Listen to that. The universe is telling you something. These strange synchronicities are leading you to the new chapter in your life.

Speaker 1: 18:54

So I just want to encourage you all to be aware on this Wisdom Wellness Wednesday. Pay attention to the signs. Trust your instincts, whether you believe in God or Buddha or Allah or whatever your belief system is, or the universe. There are signs that are presented to us and we have to be listening and watching or those opportunities may pass us by. So what? This? All of these things that have been happening to me since I got the diagnosis and got through the roller coaster of emotions and allowed myself to feel and be heard and acknowledged and validated. Then I put old, previous Elkie. I mourned the loss of her and how she used to eat or drink or do things, and now I am embracing the new Elkie Bait your Life and I'm excited for the new chapter. I am ready. So I'm listening, I'm watching, I'm ready. So I just want to make sure that all of you are listening and ready and embracing it.

Speaker 1: 20:17

Thank you to all my lovely, loyal subscribers. Mike Kaufman, the water guy, thank you for your subscription. I appreciate you. Mr Kyle, Professor Kyle, dr Kyle, you for your subscription. I appreciate you. Mr kyle few. Professor kyle few. Dr kyle few. Guru kyle few. Thank you so much for being a loyal supporter. Jeff para para palooza what's happening with that, my friend, by the way? Thank you for telling me to meditate and go and put my feet on solid ground without socks and shoes. You helped me with that, and lisa roberts curbelo, thank you for your loyalty.

Speaker 1: 21:02

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Speaker 1: 22:27

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