Mindful Monday On True Love And Relationship Red Flags

If love is supposed to feel like home, why does it sometimes feel like you’re disappearing inside your own life? On this Mindful Monday, we take a clear-eyed look at true love versus false love and the subtle relationship red flags that can hide behind chemistry, history, and familiarity. I recorded this on Memorial Day, and that sense of gratitude and perspective sets the tone for a short, honest reflection on what we tolerate and why.

We sit with a Carl Jung quote about two personalities meeting and both being transformed, then we get specific about what “transformation” should actually look like in a healthy relationship. If you feel smaller, quieter, or more anxious than you were at the start, that’s not growth, it’s erosion. We also pull in Oscar Wilde’s reminder that real love sees you fully, without managing you, minimizing you, or making you feel like you’re too much. When you find yourself shrinking to keep someone comfortable, it’s worth asking whether you’re calling familiarity “love” because it’s known, not because it’s safe.

We close with Maya Angelou’s hard truth about not making someone a priority when you’re only an option, plus a simple mindfulness-based test: peace. If the connection keeps you guessing, waiting, or questioning your worth at 2 a.m., you may be learning a lesson, not building a life. If this resonates, share it with someone who needs a reset, and please subscribe, leave a review, and drop a comment with what hit you the hardest.

Transcript

Memorial Day Welcome And Purpose

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What's up, party people? Welcome to another episode of L Kivate Your Life. I'm your hostess with the Most S. L is in the letter L and key as in the key to your heart. It is Monday, Memorial Day, May 25th, 2026. Happy Memorial Day to all the people that served and basically helped us, died for us. I want to give a shout out to all of those. Today is a special day that we are to honor them as well as celebrate our freedom. And usually most people are having barbecues and or spending time with family, so hopefully you are doing that. Well, if you're new here, thank you for tuning in for the first time. On

Mindful Monday Focus On True Love

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Mondays, we do what's called Mindful Monday. And today's mindfulness is about true love. And how do you know if it is or it is not true love? If you're new here, thank you for tuning in. If you're not, thank you for returning. So how do you know if it's not true love?

The Signs Love Is Shrinking You

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True love, and this one's gonna sting a little, Carl Jung said, the meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances. If there's any reaction, both are transformed. If you're with someone and you haven't grown, if you're smaller, quieter, more anxious than when you met them, that's not love. That's a slow erosion. And you've been calling it a relationship. Be honest with yourself. Oscar Wilde wrote, never love anyone who treats you as if you're ordinary, because real love sees you fully. It doesn't manage you, minimize you, or make you feel like you're too much. If you've ever shrunk yourself to make someone comfortable, they were never the one the they were just familiar, and familiarity is the most dangerous counterfeit of love. There is. Maya Angelo said, never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option, because that's what false love does. It keeps you just close enough to stay, just warm enough not to leave.

Familiarity As A Counterfeit Bond

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Gives you almost, and almost will quietly consume your entire life if you let it. Real love doesn't make you wonder. It doesn't make you want wait. It doesn't make it doesn't question your worth at 2 a.m. If it's costing you your peace, it was never love. It was just a lesson. Well, that's why I wanted to share with you today on this mindful Monday, Memorial Day, just some words of wisdom. And no, it's not wisdom wellness Wednesday, but I wanted you to think about these things and ask yourself: is this where you are? Is this the kind of relationship you're in? If it is, reevaluate that relationship. Look at yourself, be honest with yourself, work on yourself, discover, is it a lesson? Excuse me. Sorry guys, I've been sick

Peace, Self Worth, And Hard Truths

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over the weekend, as you all know, or my regular listeners know. I have an autoimmune, and that often has me down for the count, or not at my top-tier best self.

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But I'm working on it.

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Anyway, I thought this really resonated with me and just a place I am in my life with my circumstances. And I wanted to share some insight and knowledge with you and encourage you to self-reflect, evaluate, think about your situation and if it feels right. Or if you are experiencing any of these things, maybe you know somebody that's experiencing these things. If so, feel free to share my episode.

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Sorry, guys.

Personal Health Update And Reflection

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Sorry, guys and girls. I just thought that this was so intent and relevant.

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Um, and I've been reading about Carl Jung and the other people that I quoted in the podcast. I think gotta love those doggy podcast interruptions. Sorry about that, guys. Hopefully I can edit it out. Anyway, thank you for tuning into this mindful Monday. As always, please remember to hit that like button, the thumbs up button, no matter what platform you're on. I'm on all of them: Apple, Spotify, YouTube, BuzzSprout, Deezer Podcaster, Hub Chaser, Amazon Music. I'm really trying to build my YouTube platform. So if you listen on YouTube, please remember to hit the like, the thumbs up, and post a comment about your thoughts about my content because your feedback helps me become a

Share, Like, Subscribe, And Closing

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Mike Kaufman, thank you.

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Kyle Few, hope that you and Amore are well. And until next time, everyone, ciao for now.